Tuesday, July 15


Normally I can cope with day to day life here in the Nesbitt household but when Anxiety lets itself in I find the simplest of tasks unachievable, leaving me feeling inadequate. Over the past weeks this has been the case.
The change in the weather means I have been able to do more in the garden, a great place to be.
We have a very large garden which to be honest leaves me feeling rather helpless as there is always a job which needs to be done. Jon's passion are the lawns and we do want to turf a few more areas so the task of mowing is easier.

This is our back garden - the shrubbery recently weeded and awaiting turf.

We have an ASSORTMENT of trees - scattered around the various areas which are as follows:-
 Front Ornamental Cherry Tree Hawthorne hedge Holly Tree
Shrub area Ornamental Grass Lady's Mantle * Aquilegia *
Hedge/Shielding at side of house
 Small boxptype shrub, very overgrown Elder tree x 2 Horsechestnut Tree Sycamore Tree Lilac
In back garden
3 pine Trees Various conifers...dwarf??? 2 established older apple trees 1 younger apple tree (Discovery) Laburnum Tree
Hawthorne May Blossom? About 20 damson/plum trees
#Euphorbias Escallonia.Crimson Spire? * Hydrangea -  * Yellow Rose - not sure of name * Lady's Mantle * Flowering Currant Periwinkle Sedums
Patio/Kitchen area
Tomatoes  Strawberries  Geranium  Varigated Ivy  Lavender  Rosemary  Chives *Primulus - many of * Violas * Pansies * Basil * Peppers * Rhubarb * Mint Thyme *
 Dry Stone Wall at side of Drive
Various succulents


One of my favourite plants is  Lady's Mantle [Alchemilla mollis]

........ A frothy haze of tiny, chartreuse yellow flowers appearing from June to September above softly hairy, rounded, pale green leaves, which catch water droplets like pearls. No garden should be without this charming perennial! Ideal for groundcover or edging paths, it tolerates a range of adverse conditions including heavy clay and, once established, is drought tolerant. Position: full sun or partial shade Soil: moist, humus-rich soil Rate of Growth: fast-growing Flowering period: June to September Flowers: greenish-yellow Other features: excellent cut flowers Hardiness: fully hardy Garden care: Cut back the faded flower heads and foliage in August and the plant will often produce a second flush of flowers. Alchemilla has a tendency to self-seed freely, so to minimise the spread of the plant remove the seedheads carefully after flowering.

The garden is a great source of inspiration and I aim to have a sense of achievement as I make my way round the various jobs and tasks which need to be step at a time.

ABC Wednesday a new round.


  1. I do love Lady's Mantle but it's getting completely out of hand her and I keep having to tear great clumps out!

  2. That rose is beautiful.
    As a fellow sufferer I can understand how you have been feeling. The garden is perfect therapy, it certainly works for me. Take care Denise. x

  3. I remember how it felt to face a fairly straightforward task, that looked as daunting as climbing a mountain and I do empathise. Anxiety is a horrible thing to live with. Let yourself take baby steps until you feel you can attempt more. Look after yourself xx

  4. I truly sympathise with anxiety - my mother suffered all her life and kept a stiff upper lip. I suffer the same and will worry about anything and everything! Last year I tackled the problem with my GP and have got sorted. Hope you feel better soon.

  5. Sorry to hear you've been feeling a bit anxious lately. I find gardening very therapeutic too. I'm pleased you're back blogging. Your garden is lovely. Looks huge.

  6. You certainly have your work cut out. Don't be anxious - your garden is gorgeous and a wonderful haven for wild life, I'm sure.

  7. Hey, Denise. I too suffer from anxiety. I may hide it better than you, but I know PRECISELY how you feel. FWIW, know that you are loved.


  8. Don't even think about being inadequate. You are the very opposite.
    Think of all the things you've accomplished over the last few years.
    You've also been very kind to me.
    Anxiety can be a great deceiver. Don't listen to it.

    You have a lovely garden.
    Maggie x

    Nuts in May

  9. You have a beautiful and peaceful garden.

  10. Looks like your garden is coming along nicely...happy summer♪

  11. Your garden is absolutely lovely, Denise. It is large, though, and must be quite a lot of work to keep it so lovely. Good to have you back with ABCW.

    abcw team

  12. So many lovely pics! With nature, only beauty & no anxiety :)

  13. Funnily enough, I brought to this home some Lady's mantle last year, only to find it everywhere in the summer! But, I do love it, it looks fab with a bunch of roses or even just on it's own.
    I have anxious moments and the Garden and especially now with the hens (don't have to sign in to Blogger for my 'hen fix' now!), and the cat inside, help me settle down.
    Enjoy your garden! xxx

  14. Sunshine and a garden is a perfect therapy, hope you are on the mend. My mother suffered from anxiety too and her garden was the place where she was perfectly relaxed.

  15. I have just planted Lady's Mantle in the new garden bed and it has been lovely this summer - I will look forward to it spreading and try not to be Anxious about it!!! Your garden is beautiful....

  16. Hi Denise, I too am a sufferer from anxiety (see there are lots of us out there!) You are an over-achiever, or so your blog reveals and everything you do has to be done 110%. Am I right? It is a horrible feeling because you are always trying to live up to your own expectations. I don't know how a person can change that -- except through prayer -- and for me a small amount of medication helps take the edge off. Try to give yourself a break -- sit for half an hour in your beautiful garden and don't think about what you have to do. I'm such an expert!

  17. Denise - I do hope you are soon able to climb out of that awful pit of anxiety - gardening is a great healer, so are your dogs and those wonderful beaches so near to you. Hang on in there. Love.

  18. I understand how you feel; I have anxiety as well, and it often makes me feel inadequate and helpless. Having a project is such a great thing for easing anxiety, and your garden is wonderful. One day, I keep telling myself. I live in an apartment, so no garden for now. For now I bake. I think both help us learn to be patient with ourselves. Thank you for sharing yourself with us.

  19. No better thing than gardening to clear the head of little demons, even if it's sometimes back breaking. I've seen your garden Denise and if I recall correctly, it was lovely....
    I'm sure the 'Hennie Pennies' can help with pruning and weeding and Bing and Sadie can pick up stones and place them in the wheelbarrow and do a bit of digging.. there! you've got a little team of helpers already.
    So glad you're feeling brighter.
    take care,
    love Di.xx

  20. Wonderfull trees in your garden, have a nice day , tomorow national day in Belgium

  21. I loved your garden and its so beautiful and colourful. But let not anxiety take over you. Maintaining a big garden is time-consuming.


Thank you for your comments, always nice to know somebody has taken the time to let me know what they think.